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  • don bosch 10:07 am on 01/01/2016 Permalink
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    Star Wars and the Crisis of Masculinity:

    Kylo Ren is the son of Han Solo and Princess Leia, characters from the original Star Wars films. Solo is a swashbuckling pilot and Leia (now a general) is a cunning military strategist. With a pedigree like that you would expect Ren to be an honorable warrior, but something has gone wrong—he rejects his parents, opting instead to follow the path of the grandfather he never knew, the evil Darth Vader. The Force Awakens is a weakly written script so we never find out what precisely motivates Ren, but judging by his behavior, his hostility and confusion might stem from the lack of male initiation. That is to say, Han Solo may have been hyper driving around the galaxy when he should have been raising his son.

    According to psychologist James Hollis, rites that provide for the initiation of young men into the world of adulthood are as crucial to male health as fresh air and food.

    Vadar’s dad was also a mystery, and Luke grew up not knowing his father (until Episode VI), but did take advantage of masculine role models in his life.

    Still, what Mark Judge is getting at – and I agree with – is how the almost biblical fatherhood blessings and curses made these stories so compelling and transcendent. 

    UPDATE: Dalrock:

    The problem isn’t just that feminists have managed to destroy our ability to even imagine noble masculinity, but that our conservatives are stuck living in a fantasy world where feminist rebellion isn’t happening.  As a result of this crippling conservative delusion, our most conservative institutions are focused not on encouraging a vision of respectable manhood but on destroying the idea of respectable manhood.  Who needs feminists to destroy our sense of manhood when we have Christian conservatives?

    In this sense Judge’s near miss analysis is emblematic of the very masculine malaise he is analyzing.  Judge cheers on Leia’s transformation from a princess to a bad ass general while seeking to find the explanation for the loss of the concept of noble manhood.  All he can see is the possibility that individual fathers are failing by not providing a ritual which would embody a forbidden concept…

  • don bosch 1:33 pm on 06/18/2015 Permalink
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    Screens: Five Memorable Movies about Dads

    UPDATE: The 10 Most Damaging Chick Flicks Ever Made

  • don bosch 11:49 am on 02/02/2015 Permalink
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    Ironic headline: “Father of Birth Control Pill” Dies.

  • don bosch 8:28 am on 01/26/2015 Permalink
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    Stop calling Dads incompetent:

    If we want men to step up and take responsibility for childcare and domestic work then we need to stop telling them that they can’t, or reducing them to the butt of jokes when they try. Advertising and media that depict men as clueless insult those who are involved and active fathers. It also creates a gendered escape route for the men who want to shirk childcare and domestic responsibilities, by perpetuating the notion that it’s a woman’s domain.

    Insulting half your customer base is stupid. On the other hand, if you’re using T.V. to inform your fathering skills… 

  • don bosch 8:59 am on 12/30/2014 Permalink
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    Dad Marketing (or not):

    Consider the New York Times and its Motherlode site. Its goal is “to cover the ways our families affect us, and the ways the news affects our families.” We love the play on words if it were a moms-only site, and bear with us – we’re not comparing a term like white trash to Motherlode – we’re only using an analogy to make a point. Even its url is listed in web language as http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/. Note the first word used is parenting, as in moms and dads.

    Obviously, families include dads, and with a title like Motherlode, how can it possibly make dads feel welcome, or even make them want to check out the site?

    Ignoring half your customer base is a stupid business strategy.

  • don bosch 8:13 am on 12/30/2014 Permalink
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    Reality TV for Lawyers: Maureen McDonnell’s daughter trashes her mother to help her father

  • don bosch 12:19 pm on 10/11/2014 Permalink
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    The Father Factor: How to Avoid Being a Terrible, Horrible, No Good Very Bad Dad

  • don bosch 10:14 am on 09/10/2014 Permalink
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    Film School for Dads – You Gotta Ride the Wave

    When you make a movie with your kids, you want to make sure they have ownership in the work, while at the same time, you want to make sure that it turns out well. This is a tricky thing to do, and to make it happen, you’ll need to ride the wave of balancing your own skills and experiences as an adult, while giving them plenty of room to create the film themselves.

    OK, but unless you’re in this business, most kids are way ahead of their old man on this. So maybe the real trick is accepting that?

  • don bosch 11:33 am on 09/05/2014 Permalink
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    Everyday sayings from Aesop. Lots of folks probably think these are Bible verses.

  • don bosch 11:30 am on 09/05/2014 Permalink
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    NPR: The politics of calling in sick.

  • don bosch 8:25 am on 08/29/2014 Permalink
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    Guy lives for a month (minus 5 days, a burger, and a scotch) on a liquid protein diet. Soylent Green is People!

  • don bosch 9:24 am on 08/27/2014 Permalink
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    In theaters now: Football, Family, and Fatherhood: Learn About When The Game Stands Tall

  • don bosch 12:08 pm on 08/26/2014 Permalink
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    Film School for Dads – More Amazing Reasons to Make Movies with your Kids

  • don bosch 9:13 am on 08/26/2014 Permalink
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    Claire Flatowicz: How my father shaped my life

    By the time he worked at the bakery, Dad was well into his 60’s. He had worked hard all his life, and now was doing a job he had done while in his 30’s. It wasn’t a challenge or anything fun.

    One day when he was talking to me about his philosophy of his current job he told me very bluntly, “My name is Schmitt, and I give a sh_ _“

    That saying has become the mantra of my whole family. My daughter, Lyndi, told me that if I ever write a book that should be the title of it. I wholeheartedly agree.

    I have learned that I really don’t give a sh_ _ about most things in life. They really don’t matter.

  • don bosch 8:38 am on 08/26/2014 Permalink
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    Is CNN ignoring the fact that Michael Brown has a father? 


  • don bosch 8:31 am on 08/26/2014 Permalink
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    The million father march – dads walking their kids to school – is the biggest movement you’ve probably never heard of. 

    The Million Father March is an opportunity for Black men to show their commitment to the educational lives of their children on the first day of school and throughout the school year.

    On the first day of school each year since the March began in 2004, Black fathers, relatives, men, and significant male caregivers are asked to take their children to their first day of school across the country and around the world. Fathers, grandfathers, foster fathers, stepfathers, uncles, cousins, big brothers, significant male caregivers and friends of the family will participate in the event.

    While this event was created for Black men, men and women of all races, nationalities and faith backgrounds are also encouraged to take children to school on this first day. The Black Star Project also asks elementary and high schools; school districts and school boards; colleges and universities; pre-schools, nursery schools, and Headstarts; public, private, parochial and religious schools; urban, suburban and rural schools to participate in this event.

    Additionally, we recruit the support of local school councils, community organizations, parent associations, faith-based organizations, government agencies, elected officials, chambers of commerce and businesses should support and participate in the Million Father March.

    Where’s Obama and Sharpton and all the rest?

    YOU, on the other hand, can register here to become your own community organizer, just like I did.

  • don bosch 8:23 am on 08/26/2014 Permalink
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    Survey: 80% of Dads Say Media Portrayals of Fatherhood Wrong

    Well this is a pleasant surprise: the media incorrectly depict fathers, according to today’s dads – and, for once, the media agree.

    Just in time for Father’s Day, soap brand Dove hired Edelman Berland to survey 1,000 dads for Dove Men+Care. The dads challenged the media’s representation of fathers – with 80 percent agreeing the media fail to portray fathers roles accurately. When asked what attributes describe fathers in the media, dads most frequently responded with “disconnected, bumbling and incompetent.” Videos Below.

    In regards to the media, Dove explained, “Three quarters of dads say they are responsible for their child’s emotional well-being, while only 20% of dads see this role reflected in media.” Other findings included: “Dads today are caring for their children’s emotional well-being (74%) and taking responsibility for their daily needs (51%).”

    The company concluded, “It’s time to acknowledge the caring moments of fatherhood that often go overlooked.”

    And that making idiots of half your customers is idiotic.

  • don bosch 1:48 pm on 08/25/2014 Permalink
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    Richard Attenborough: Veteran British actor and director dead at 90. What a great life.

    Gonna rent Great Escape tonight so my son can see it.

  • don bosch 12:20 pm on 08/25/2014 Permalink
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    Divided: A Documentary About How Ministry Models Hurt Families. Is modern youth ministry multiplying or dividing the church?

    I recently watched a documentary called Divided. The documentary explored the question of how the family is affected by current models of ministry that segregate people based on age or demographic. It raises the question of whether this age-segregated approach to ministry is biblical (Spoiler alert: It’s not). If the concept of “youth group” is a modern invention, then where did it come from? What has it done to families over the past few generations? What is the role of fathers in all of this? These are a few questions the documentary explores.

    Watch it at the link.

  • don bosch 9:44 am on 08/25/2014 Permalink
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    Family and T.V.

    Television channels are always pushing the boundaries of what content they broadcast and younger children are more likely to be exposed to things we couldn’t even imagine.

    However the Dr Alice Sullivan, senior academic at the university’s Institute of Education, said to the Telegraph in 2013: that television had been “underestimated”, and “It may also help expose some children to a broader vocabulary than they get at home.”

    Heh. Got that right.

    We cut the cable in the 90’s when our oldest spouted stuff we hadn’t taught her. Now that they’re off to college the Mrs and I are thinking about installing it. But with the over-the-air network channels and streaming shows/movies on the net, it’s hard to justify the cost.

  • don bosch 11:39 am on 08/20/2014 Permalink
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    Attorneys React To Judge Overturning Murder, Rape Conviction Against Jamie Peterson

    A man convicted of rape and murder nearly two decades ago is getting a chance for a new trial. Jamie Peterson was convicted of raping and murdering Geraldine Montgomery at her home in 1996. On Monday, a Kalkaska County Judge tossed out that conviction. The case in Kalkaska was reopened last year thanks to new DNA evidence. That DNA links Jason Ryan to the scene. He’s now charged for the crimes. But the DNA rules out Peterson being at the scene, despite him confessing to the crime. His attorneys from the University of Michigan Innocence Clinic say it was a false confession.

    “We’re really happy about the outcome,” said Caitlin Plummer, University of Michigan Innocence Clinic Attorney. “We are very pleased that the judge granted a new trial, but we know the case isn’t over at this point.

    Stay tuned.

    Related: Ten reasons false rape accusations are common

  • don bosch 11:19 am on 08/20/2014 Permalink
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    Professors slam Pixar for sexist portrayal of boys in Disney films:

    English professors Shannon Wooden and Ken Gillam have outlined their concerns in their book, Pixar’s Boy Stories: Masculinity in a Post Modern Age, published in April.

    Wooden and Gillam feel there has been a large emphasis on Disney’s sexist and offensive portrayal of princesses, but they didn’t feel boys were receiving adequate public attention for their disservice.

    “Somebody had to be the first person to complain about the Disney princesses’ stifling representation of women, right?” said Wooden. “A parallel conversation for boys hasn’t started, but we’re trying to start it … so people become aware of what they are watching and what their kids are watching.” 

    In the film Monster’s University, for example, main character Mike Wazowski is bullied because of his small stature; by the end of the film, he accepts his physical limitations and cultural stereotypes. The two professors feel that Mike’s acceptance of his place in society doesn’t properly encourage kids to fight back and deem themselves equal to those who meet the accepted height.

    “What kind of message is that to send to kids?” Wooden asked, according to the Springfield News-Leader. “If you have the misfortune to not be born in the right kind of male body, you may as well get used to life as a loser. Try to learn to be happy in your second place — or lower — status, because your options here are find complacency in your ‘lesser than’ status or get really angry.”

    Meh. This is a solution looking for a problem. Being your own best guy means doing your best with what God gives you, even if it’s only two talents, not five.

  • don bosch 9:39 am on 08/19/2014 Permalink
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    Sexist, insulting and stereotypical: The Early Learning Centre (ELC), a UK-based chain of toyshops, courted controversy yesterday by choosing to insult one of its main groups of customers—Dads!

    In a poorly considered attempt at corporate humour, the retailer, which operates around 300 stores in 20 countries, shared a branded meme on Twitter and Facebook suggesting that the only role that dads play in childcare is telling their kids where mum is.

    Fathers across the UK reacted angrily to the suggestion that mums face a long list of demands from their kids (eg “I’m hungry, “I’m cold”, “she hit me”, “can I have?” etc) while the only demand that dads have to deal with is: “where’s Mum?”.

    Tom, a father of two and primary school teacher from Worcestershire, who writes the blog Daddy Daydream, described the meme as: “very, very insulting to all those Dads who look after their families.”

    Insulting your customers is stupid. Especially when….

    According to a survey by Netmums, nine out of ten parents now think that TV dads do not reflect the contribution that fathers make to family life in the real world. Three out of ten went further and said the way dads are portrayed in the media is a “subtle form of discrimination”.

    Fatherists. This sort of #misandry should not go unpunished. And it ain’t subtle.

    Related: Harvard Business Review: Customers Demand and Deserve Respect

  • don bosch 5:51 am on 08/19/2014 Permalink
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    Peanut Butter Cheerios #HowToDad is Spot-On Portrayal of Fathers:

    The Lowe’s ad is, unfortunately, all too common in its portrayal of a dad as an irresponsible, untrustworthy, incompetent adolescent whose children must be rescued by a responsible, trustworthy, competent mom. What makes this ad and the LG ad so insidious is couching the portrayal of the dads within humor because, these companies reason, the use of humor makes it perfectly fine to reinforce this notion of dads as poor parents, all in the name of selling products to moms. (As I pointed out in the article, this approach is disrespectful of moms as well.) Indeed, when NFI contacted Lowe’s to voice our disapproval of their ad, Lowe’s simply said they were sorry that we took the ad the wrong way, that their portrayal of the dad was all in fun and meant no harm, and that they had no intention of pulling the ad. Interestingly, we didn’t ask them to pull the ad. Perhaps they were a bit defensive given their receipt of a petition signed by NFI and other organizations throughout the U.S. and Canada that called Lowe’s out on the ad. (For details on the petition, see my previous article.)

    At any rate, the #HowToDad campaign turns the tables by showing that dads are competent parents. The campaign transforms Peanut Butter Cheerios into the “Official Cereal of Dadhood.” In doing so, General Mills Canada recognizes that the company doesn’t have to denigrate dads to sell a product. This campaign reflects the growing influence of dads as moms’ partners in raising children in all aspects of domestic life. Dads have taken on a steadily increasing share of the parenting load in recent decades. Dads spend more time than ever with their children generally, grocery and retail shopping for the family, and doing housework (e.g. cooking and cleaning). Dads are also more focused than ever on the desire to balance work and family. Indeed, they’re often more conflicted than moms in this regard.

    In addition to the overall portrayal of fathers, what I really appreciate is how General Mills Canada uses humor to portray fathers in a positive light — a stark rebuke to the use of humor in ads like those of Lowe’s and LG. I also appreciate that the campaign uses social media to share this positive portrayal across multiple channels used by people of all ages. The #HowToDad campaign is a comprehensive web-based campaign that, in addition to the ads, includes static images, infographics, and videos (e.g. of dads doing inspirational activities with their children) that visitors can share across multiple social media platforms.

    I always thought it was stupid to make fun of your customers. Devon Bandison has more here. More here from Amateur Dad.

    There’s a renewed respect for fathering in Canada and Great Britain these days. I hope that begins to take root here.

  • don bosch 1:34 pm on 08/18/2014 Permalink
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    On Disney, Daughters, and Dads

    What is most sophisticated and wonderful about each of these women is that none of them are effective at the expense of her femininity. Disney’s women have come of age. They are strong, smart, even sexy. The change is unmistakable. These women of action, unlike their predecessors, are out of the house, (or the sea), confident and courageous.

    Then there are the fathers. In most of the old movies, there is a single female parent. In all three new movies, there is a single male parent. Interesting switch. Has the depiction of fathers as primary caretakers improved to the same degree as the view of young women? One could argue that at least they exist! However, in each of the movies mentioned, the father is a tyrant, a buffoon, or both.

    But not in all cases, apparently:

    There are, of course, capable fathers among Disney’s characters. Geppetto, Pinnochio’s father, is caring and courageous. In The Jungle Book, Bagheera and Baloo team up to take care of Mowgli and see him safely back to the man’s village; while one lacks a sense of humor and the other lacks a sense of responsibility, combined they make a pretty good paternal pair. My favorite father is Pongo of One Hundred and One Dalmatians. The newest Disney dad, The Lion King’s Mufasa, is a fine feline father, at once powerful and playful, stern and sensitive. These latter two movies are among the few Disney families with both a mother and father.

    There is an important difference between these positively portrayed papas and the faltering fathers of Ariel, Belle, and Jasmine. These dads care for sons. Pinnochio, Mowgli, the Dalmatian pups, and Simba are all boys. The message seems to be that when caring for boys, a father is competent and even heroic, but when caring for girls, a father is bungling and brainless.

  • don bosch 9:12 am on 08/11/2014 Permalink
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    Listen: Hope Will Rise, by Warr Acres

    …And now nothing will defeat us
    We are boldly interceding
    For our children lost and bleeding
    We’ll see slavery bow to freedom
    And the sick restored to healing
    So we fight for those who’ve fallen
    And we take back what’s been stolen
    From our families shamed and broken
    Hope will rise and hearts will open
    We’ll see joy defeat depression
    Liberation from addiction
    For when we are at our weakest
    Then your power is completed!

  • don bosch 9:29 am on 08/06/2014 Permalink
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    The women of the men’s rights movement.

  • don bosch 12:01 pm on 08/05/2014 Permalink
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    R.I.P. Idiot Dads – New advert from Cheerios portrays us as totally competent! Certainly a market out there for any company that respects their customers.

  • don bosch 2:58 pm on 08/01/2014 Permalink
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    Progress? No more dad jokes: Advertisers trying to re-brand the father figure

    And for what it’s worth, I went back to shaving with one of these. Hey, if it was good enough for my old man…

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